According to McGreevey, what he always wanted was a relationship with a man, but because that would ruin his chances of success as a politician, he instead engaged in secret encounters.

"So, instead, I settled for the detached anonymity of bookstores and rest stops — a compromise, but one that was wholly unfulfilling and morally unsatisfactory," McGreevey wrote

I don't find such passages heroic or scintillating; I find them sad.   What would have been so wrong about a gay governor?  Is America not ready for that?  Even New Jersey, one of the most liberal states in the nation?

I am amazed in this day and age that people still agonize so much about coming out of the closet.  For most people I have talked to, the thing they feared was not nearly as bad as their imaginations had painted it.  Plus, most men report that coming out is actually a great relief, and it frees them up to actually live their lives authentically.

I know that living as a gay man in an eastern city is no longer very hard.  It's a shame to think that in many areas of the country, however, it still is a torment.

I had hoped we would have progressed much further by this date.

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